A lot of people who want to lose weight and become healthier are actually standing in the way of their own success. Why would anyone want to prevent themselves from achieving the results they desire? It all has to do with how we see ourselves.
In his talks, neuroscientist Dr. Joe Dispenza reveals that in order to change our circumstances, we literally have to become somebody else. We can only be, do and have what we want based on how we see ourselves. If you see yourself as an overweight person who struggles with their weight, then it’s no surprise that no matter what you do, you will always be an overweight person who struggles with their weight!
So how do we sabotage ourselves?
We make excuses and we procrastinate. Do you make the following excuses or are guilty of indulging in the following behaviours:
So what’s the difference between someone who always seems to struggle with their weight and someone who seems to effortlessly achieve their goals? The person who achieves their goals sees themselves as someone who can lose the weight and change their life. They don’t make excuses. They get up earlier, they manage their time better, they make time for exercise, they take responsibility for their lives. They do the things that they need to do to get results, but more importantly, they manage their thoughts and the way they feel. They literally see and feel their success. They do the things that they need to do because they already see themselves as they wish to be. There’s no resistance, there’s no self-sabotaging. They know that they deserve success and deserve to enjoy that success. They are also gentle on themselves. They know that changing their life is a process and so they celebrate their successes and learn from their failures.
If you can see yourself as a healthy person with a beautiful body then you will start to behave like a healthy person who has a beautiful body. But it must start in your mind first!
So how can you change yourself on the inside so that you can start to make changes on the outside?
The first thing that you need to do is closely look at your excuses and start to find solutions. You also need to be more conscious of your self-talk and how you speak with others about yourself.
No time to eat well? How about you mange your time better? Can you get up a bit earlier? Can you go to bed a bit earlier? Can you spend less time watching TV or scrolling through your social media feeds? Can you spend a little time preparing your meals for the following day or the following week? Can you shop more efficiently at the supermarket? Can you organise yourself better?
Can you stop telling people how dieting is so hard and how much you dislike your body?
Can you start to graciously accept compliments?
Can you start a healthy eating plan and exercise regime, no matter what the activity may be?
Can you start to act and feel as if you already have the kind of body you want? (This will take some time and effort so be patient!)
Can you stop comparing yourself to others?
Can you accept the fact that even though diets have never worked for you in the past, there exists a way of eating that your body will respond to?
Can you start to enjoy the journey and not obsess over your results?
Can you learn to detach from those results?
Can you ask yourself why you want to lose weight and use that answer as a powerful motivator?
Can you stop criticising yourself and start to view your goal as a process?
Can you be more patient and focus on your daily activities?
Can you learn from your mistakes and failures and just keep moving forward?
Eating well and exercising is a big piece of the weight loss puzzle, however, there are a lot of people who seem to be doing all the right things but for very little reward. Remember that unless you can see and feel your results right now, you will always be fighting an uphill battle that will only serve to cause you much frustration!
I highly recommend that you watch this short interview with Dr. Joe Dispenza on why we self-sabotage: www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=gmdpdokIdYU